Internet supports woman who dumps niece in favor of teen mother’s daughter | Wbactive

A mother receives support from other Reddit users after deciding to kick her niece out of her home.

The post shared by u/throwaway2948928 and published on November 2nd on the Am I the A***** forums received more than 7,000 interactions.

In her post, u/throwaway2948928 said her 17-year-old daughter ‘Amelia’ lives with her, along with Amelia’s 1-year-old grandson ‘Owen’ and the child’s 17-year-old father ‘Raymond’.

She also allowed her 19-year-old niece “Stephanie” to live with her, but noted the unkind way Stephanie treated Amelia.

Although u/throwaway2948928 spoke to Stephanie about how she treated Amelia, the issues continued and prompted her to kick Stephanie out of her home. u/throwaway2948928 has since faced backlash from other family members.

Above is a stock image of a woman packing a suitcase. Reddit users are rallying around a woman who kicked her niece out of her home after saying her niece had repeatedly been disrespectful.
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Insight from an expert

Kevin Mimms, LMFT, narrated news week that u/throwaway2948928 did the right thing by talking to Stephanie.

“If she adds anything, it’s the reasons for the request – expectations of respect and kindness – and the consequences – you can’t live here if you don’t meet those expectations,” he said.

Mimms added that when the family reaches a point where u/throwaway2948928 wants to smooth things over with the others, she first needs to remember why Stephanie was kicked out – to protect her daughter.

“If she wants to smooth it out, maybe say something about how she’s still an important member of her family and she loves her,” he said.

If Stephanie is pushing back, u/throwaway2948928 should maintain that boundary by asking for kindness towards her daughter and her family.

“At this point, the responsibility for reconciliation rests with the niece,” Mimms said. “Humility and repentance lead to forgiveness, while hardening prevents it.”

AITA?

In her post, u/throwaway2948928 said her sister asked if it was possible for Stephanie to move in with her. As it is difficult to find an apartment, u/throwaway2948928 agreed.

“It struck me right away that Stephanie was hilarious about Amelia being a teenage mom,” said u/throwaway2948928. “She was making tacky jokes and I immediately took her aside and told it [her] that I would not tolerate teasing.”

She added that when Stephanie hired a tutor for Amelia and Raymond, she said they wouldn’t need one if they were “in charge.”

u/throwaway2948928 said she noticed Stephanie also took some of Amelia’s clothes without asking.

“When she first moved in, I told her that at my house we ask permission first [taking] Other people’s property so I was pretty upset about that,” said u/throwaway2948928.

Although Amelia asked for the shirt to be returned, u/throwaway2948928 said Stephanie refused and said she didn’t need it because she didn’t fit. u/throwaway2948928 said the shirt was intended to serve as motivation to shed some weight she gained during her pregnancy.

“We had a massive argument which resulted in me packing her bags and calling her mum to come and pick her up,” said u/throwaway2948928.

Reddit responds

Though she faced some backlash from her family, Reddit users jumped to her defense.

The top comment said that u/throwaway2948928 should suggest that one of the other critical family members take Stephanie in.

“Anyone who is bothering you about this can volunteer to give Stephanie free room and board,” wrote another commenter. “They tried and all she did was attack your immediate family with verbal abuse and theft.”

“I know you love helping the family, but make sure they don’t mistake your kindness for weakness,” wrote one Reddit user. “If the tables had been turned, would they have opened their doors to you or your daughter?”

news week reached out to u/throwaway2948928 for further comments. We have not been able to verify the details of this case.

Many others have asked other Reddit users for their perspective on their personal conflicts.

A woman has been slammed for being upset with her boyfriend for boarding a plane minutes before she did.

A man was supported for throwing a birthday party for his “grounded” daughter, even though her mother didn’t want her to celebrate.

Another man faced backlash for introducing his new girlfriend to his daughter, whom he has met a few times.

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