What rights do I have if she puts me in her book?

Dear Amy: I just found out that a family member is writing a memoir. Yesterday she said to me, “You’re in a couple of times.”

Amy Dickinson

Now that a day has passed I wonder what she wrote about me.

Don’t I have any rights here?


Dear concerned: I wrote two memoirs. In both cases, I shared excerpts with family members who named them and invited them to comment. I did this because I cared more about relationships than digging up family history.

There have also been cases where I named people but didn’t invite them to comment because I didn’t care about the impact my writing would have on the relationship.


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